The other day I had a client say, “Ugh, I wish I could borrow your brain.”  I kind of laughed and we went on with our coaching call, focusing on her.

But that statement has been stuck in my head ever since. So I thought I’d share with you some of the thoughts that I come back to all the time that have allowed me to create a life and business I love.

But I’m also going to be really transparent and share with you some of the thoughts that go through my head that I intentionally weed out. Because I’m human too. Which means I have a human brain that offers up all kinds of drama to keep me on the couch eating Oreos instead of going out and doing the big things I know I’m meant to do.

Imagining That Your Mind Is Like a Garden

But before I dive into those, I want you to image that your brain is like a garden. The soil is rich and fertile. Which means everything grows well in your garden brain, both the weeds and the plants.

Growing a garden that produces what we want requires us to tend to it daily. And creating a life that is filled with more of what we want, requires us to tend to our minds daily. It takes intentionally showing up to cultivate more of what we want.

I work on my mind every. single. day. I look at what I’m thinking just like I would look at my garden every day to see what was growing. I look at my mind to notice what’s growing. I pull the weeds (aka the thoughts that don’t help me create more of what I want and the thoughts that don’t feel good). And I focus on taking really good care of the thoughts that help me become more of who I want to be.

This is a non-negotiable for me. 

Most people won’t spend time doing this. Instead they’ll have a thought, and believe it. They’ll think they’re just reporting the news as they say their thoughts out loud. And they’ll end up fighting for their limitations, until they have them. 

But you’re not most people. 

So let’s get to work. 

Your Mind Is Like a Garden so it Needs Weeding

Here are some of the thoughts that sneak into my brain that I intentionally weed out repeatedly:

• You’re not smart enough.
• They don’t really care.
• This doesn’t matter.
• You don’t have enough time. 
• What you have to say isn’t important.
• You’re boring.
• Small town women don’t value personal growth.
• You need to have a corporate background to be successful as an entrepreneur.
• Your voice is annoying.
• You don’t have the right audience.
• Small town women don’t want other women to succeed.
• You need to live in a big city to be successful as an entrepreneur.
• You’re too late.
• You’re too old.
• What you’re doing has already been done.
• She’s doing it better than you.
• Your success is a fluke.
• It’s not safe to say that.
• You need a bigger audience to be successful.

Those thoughts aren’t me. They’re the weeds that grow in my mind. They’re the garbage that’s polluting my garden. I can choose to focus on them and allow them to grow stronger or I can choose to weed them out and focus on the thoughts I want to nourish and help grow.

So I intentionally choose to weed out the thoughts that don’t support the life I want and instead I take care of and focus on the thoughts that do.

Resource (blog post): How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts – 4 Steps

I don’t make it mean anything about me that I have those negative thoughts, just like I wouldn’t make it mean anything bad about my garden if it grew weeds. I’m a human with a human brain. My brain’s job is to protect me and keep me safe. The way it does that is by creating thoughts that will keep me playing small.

But I’m meant for more and I know you are too.

Choose Intentionally Which Seeds & Plants You Nurture in Your Garden

So here are some of the thoughts I choose to think on purpose:

• I am a powerful creator.
• My message is important.
• My coaching is valuable.
• I am meant to do this work.
• My work is changing lives.
• She is waiting for me to show up.
• The women who choose to work with me are powerful creators
• Anyone who follows me genuinely wants to be connected to me.
• I get to do this my way.
• My business is a playground.
• I am making an impact in the world with my work.
• The braver I am, the more people I help.
• I am a wealthy woman.
• I am a problem solver.
• Things always work out for me.
• I create my results with my brain.
• My clients care about making an impact in the world.
• Clients come from places known and unknown.
• Lurkers buy.
• I have everything I need to be successful.
• A client is coming.
• I am resourceful.
• Someone is waiting to work with me.
• I can figure this out.
• It’s safe to be me.
• I love people.
• I am an entrepreneur who makes high quality money.
• I love and appreciate money.
• My clients are resourceful.
• I have enough time for the things that matter to me.
• I am wildly capable of creating what I desire.
• I am really good mom.
• My clients are problem solvers.
• I’m not fucking around.
• I’m here to do important work and it’s urgent. 
• The more I take care of myself, the more money I make.
• My desires are good for me, for you, for us.

So there’s a little window into my brain. I hope this sparked something inside you and your brain.

Remember, our thoughts become things and our lives are mirrors that show us our minds.

If you want to create new results in your life, create time to weed out the thoughts that aren’t helping you create those and work on believing thoughts that help you create more of what you really want.

If this resonated with you and you wish you could borrow my mind too, you can.  This is at the core of the work I do with my clients through 1:1 coaching. If you’re interested in creating different results in your life and you’d like to partner with me to help you create them, email me HERE and let’s chat about 1:1 coaching with me.