Let’s talk about feeling overwhelmed.
I hear so many women say they feel overwhelmed, feel exhausted, and wish they just had more time to get everything done.
If you’re anything like me these sentences have been on repeat for you throughout most of your adult life so they feel very familiar to you.
I felt trapped by the overwhelm cycle throughout my 30’s and it was one of the most difficult life seasons I’ve been through so far.
Instead of looking inside, I was looking outside myself and wanting everyone and everything around me to change.
Knowing what I know now I can look back and see that I created that painful situation for myself.
I was causing my feelings of overwhelm because of what I was thinking.
Did you know that overwhelm is actually created by our thoughts?
When we feel overwhelmed we often don’t decide. We spin in indecision and we give in to feeling overwhelmed. But feeling overwhelmed is never helpful. This is different than most other emotions that are helpful when we feel and process them. Overwhelm is an indulgent emotion that keeps us spinning within it.
Think about it. When you feel overwhelmed you’re often paralyzed by everything you have to do or all the things that are going on in your life. Instead of calmly and confidently choosing the next best step and doing that one thing, you overthink things, add more to your to-do list, try to do everything at once, consume more information trying to do it just right, or choose to do something else that feels better and distracts you but doesn’t actually help solve the problem. So you end up exactly where you started. And you still feel overwhelmed.
When you get into the overwhelm trap, here are a 4 steps to take to move yourself into a more productive space.
Think of all the emotions available to you. Consider going to your favorite restaurant and having a menu with every emotion. Which would you purposely choose?
Remember, overwhelm is always an option. When you choose to feel overwhelmed you’re choosing to stay in a place of inaction. You’re creating the feeling of overwhelm by what you’re thinking. Noticing your thoughts and choosing to think something else instead moves you out of the “overwhelm spin cycle” and into action.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed and you’d like more help with this, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and schedule a free 60 minute discovery call. I’d love to help you learn how to stop spinning in feelings of overwhelm and start doing what you say you want to do.
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